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Archive for May 2011


I seem to get inspiration for blog posts at the most inconvenient times (in the car, in the shower, at work, etc…).  There are so many ideas and thoughts I’d like to share, but I can’t remember them all by the time I get to sign on here.  So, until I can set aside more time to write one of my “really long posts” as my friend Lisa says, here’s something to tide you over so you will continue to keep up with me and not give up hope that I can be a successful blogger. 🙂

This weekend was Jackson’s 2nd birthday.  I cannot believe that he’s two already!  It’s amazing how fast time goes and how much he has grown and learned.  He counted to 10 all by himself with no prompting from us on his birthday.  It came out of no where!  It was amazing.  He loved our “Hooray!”‘s so much that he counted a few more times.  I’m working with him on his ABC’s now.  So far I can get “ABCFG” out of him.  He loves the song so I’m sure he’ll pick it up soon.  He’s quite the singer.  I knows all the words to “On Top of Spaghetti” but can really only say part of them.  We usually say “On Top of…” and he’ll say “Spaghetti” and we sing the rest of the song that way.  He also knows “Miss Mary Mack”.  He has the cutest little voice.  I love to hear him sing and talk and do just about everything else too.  I love being a mommy.  People keep asking me when we’re going to have another one.  I don’t know, but I don’t want to wait too late or jump in too early.  It will happen when the time is right. 

People asked me when we were going to have kids on our wedding day.  What is it with people?  Do they really think that’s an appropriate question and not totally personal?  What I decide to do with my uterus and how many kids I decide to have is totally my business.  How did we get to this point where we feel it’s ok to ask such questions.  For instance “you’re getting up there in age, aren’t you worried about having kids?”.  Totally inappropriate.  While the person asking that question may have meant well, it’s a reflection of our society and how they view women’s “job”/”purpose” in this world.  We don’t know any better, but we should.  I mean, we don’t go around asking men “when are you planning to have a vasectomy?  You know you’re getting a too old to have kids.”  I’m just saying.  These are discussions we need to be having…what is and what isn’t appropriate to ask random people or people you are not very close too.  It’s like that whole rubbing the baby belly thing.  I had a woman at my baby shower who I was forced to invite and she came over and patted my belly, but a little too hard.  It made me very uncomfortable.  She did not ask.  Had she asked I’m not sure if I would have had the ovaries to tell her know since I was obliged to have her there.  But still, I would have liked to been asked.  It’s like that “Can I kiss you” program we bring here to teach students about sex and consent.  We need a “You better ask me before touching my belly” campaign.  I guess people think that women are there for anyone to do/say whatever they want to.  They would never do the same to a man.  You don’t see people going up to men and patting their crotches saying “good job on making that baby”.  Now that would be a sight!  There would probably be a violent reaction.  Well, I guess that would depend on the guy and the person doing the patting, but you get my point.

So, my message to everyone reading this is ask before touching a pregnant woman’s belly and if you don’t know someone really well, don’t ask them about their baby making plans.  It’s not cool.


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